What to say when a friend is going through a divorce
Support a friend through a separation or divorce without saying the wrong thing. Fill in your details below, copy the prompt, and paste it into ChatGPT, Claude, or Gemini.
Supporting a friend through a divorce or separation is one of those situations where you want to help but it is hard to know what actually helps. Most people reach for reassurance, "you will be okay," or advice about what they should do, when what is often most needed is simple acknowledgment of how hard the situation is.
The most supportive things tend to be consistent small acts of presence over time rather than big gestures at the start. Check in regularly, not just once. Avoid taking sides in ways that might complicate things if circumstances change. And let them talk about whatever they need to, even if that means hearing the same things more than once.
Fill in the situation and your relationship with your friend. The prompt below will write a message that offers genuine support without projecting what they should feel or do.
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Your prompt
You are helping me support a friend who is going through a divorce or separation. Here are my details: Who this is: [PERSON] What I know about their situation: [SITUATION] My relationship with them: [RELATIONSHIP] What I want to offer: [OFFER] Write a warm, genuine message reaching out. Help me acknowledge what they are going through without taking sides, making assumptions about how they feel, or offering unwanted opinions about their ex or the decision. Just genuine support. Make it easy for them to respond or not.
Copy this prompt and paste it into ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, or any AI tool.
Tips for this conversation
- 1Do not badmouth the ex, even if invited to. It can complicate things later, especially if they reconcile.
- 2Do not offer unsolicited opinions on the decision. Your job is to support them, not evaluate the choice.
- 3Divorce takes a long time. Keep checking in over months, not just in the first few weeks.
Common questions
What if I am also friends with their ex?+
Be honest about it: "I care about both of you and I am not going to take sides, but I am here for you." Let them know you are keeping the friendships separate. Most people respect that far more than pretending the other person does not exist.
Should I ask about the details?+
Let them share what they want. Do not probe. "Do you want to talk about it?" is enough. Some people need to process out loud; others just need distraction and company.
What if they seem angry or bitter?+
Let them. Do not try to redirect them to positivity or reassure them it will all be fine. Sometimes people just need to be heard without being managed.
How do I use this prompt?+
Fill in your details using the form above. The placeholders in the prompt update live as you type. When you are ready, click “Copy prompt” and paste it into ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, or any AI tool. The AI will write a personalised script based on your specific situation.
Which AI tool works best for these conversation scripts?+
Claude and ChatGPT both work well. Claude tends to produce more nuanced, natural-sounding language that is closer to how people actually speak. ChatGPT is strong for structured, direct output. Try both with your details and compare the results.
Should I use the AI output word for word?+
Use it as a strong draft, then edit it to sound like you. The AI gives you the structure and language to work from. Reading it out loud before the actual conversation is one of the best ways to catch anything that does not feel natural for your voice.
Can I adapt the prompt for a written message instead of a conversation?+
Yes. Before copying the prompt, add a line specifying the format you need: “Write this as an email” or “Write this as a short Slack message.” The variants above also cover different tones and formats for many situations.
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